THE UNSUNG PRAYER

The only thing worth writing down is that this pen, words and language cannot evoke enough about this wondrous experience of life. Language can never do enough to convey feeling. Language is not even enough to describe the taste of an orange so indulge me in closing your eyes for just a moment and communicate with the higher power; the very highest of powers without the words you spent so long learning, studying and using. Words rely on one another to dance around a subject and never actually engage or touch it. You are what you feel and what you feel must be expressed. Forget using words, just feel. Send forth your feelings and express what words never could and never will be able to. You don't have to worry about whether this message, this communication will be clearly understood, because it will. You don't have to worry about whether there will be an answer, because the answer will be how you feel, whether it is an intensifying or a gradual change in feeling. Just surrender your fears and trust that the message, your message, your communication, your expression will be received and communicate now what you feel inside. There's no need to speak it aloud or even form the words in your mind to send it out, just feel it and know that simultaneously it is being received where, when and exactly how it is meant to be in the only language that the universe ever meant for us to learn. This is the unsung prayer. This is your unsung prayer. It will be felt not heard, wherever it is felt by your very centre, from your innermost, the secret of the most secret place in your heart. Any words we learn anywhere else to motivate or to teach us anything worthy of any attention will only be a dance around this place, this moment, this innermost dimension, this place of feeling. Do not take this place, this moment lightly. Do not take this place, this moment heavily. This here is the place and this moment is the time and this here... is the reply if you are but willing to listen.

Keep Your Dreams Fuelled

Keep things moving and flowing and you will find that every step, even if it’s backwards is one step closer. Success is not a straight and narrow road. It’s a state of mind out of which your greatness flows. Whether that greatness is yours or God’s is debatable but at least its happening through you and you can feel comfort and pride in that knowledge. Allow your actions and energy to flow into everything that you do and keep your goals and ambitions close to your heart. There you will find even the most mundane, trivial and unrelated acts will arouse great satisfaction from within you. You will find a blissful inspiration through your every action. That’s a good place to be.

Cleaning Out Your Dirty Chicken

Ok So why am I talking about cleaning out chicken in this video? Is it possibly one of the strangest, most abstract analogies every formulated? Maybe, but when you begin to sincerely ask the important questions in life and really want to know how to get ahead, the inspiration comes to you through everything you do. I happened to be cleaning out a big old bucket of chicken in my restaurant! I won’t go into it in this blog, you’ll have to watch the video, but the gist of it is that you should keep things flowing in your life. Always keep moving and don’t let the situation and your energies stagnate. Every action takes your failures one step farther away and gets you one step closer to your truest ambitions. Be sincere in your askings and the universe will provide.

How to Be Around an Angry Spouse/ Parent/ Sibling/ Friend

HOW TO BE AROUND ANGRY PEOPLE. Anger is a fire that burns everything it touches. It does not discriminate because it is deeply unconscious. If it was conscious it would be selective. It burns ones internal resources. It can cause great harm to the self and to others. Some people use anger as a means for gaining a sense of significance and to feel some control in a situation. This is false and serves no one. Anger will not be quelled unless it is closely examined. Its effects are clear. You do not feel better after feeling angry, you hurt people in anger, you hurt from anger, prolonged anger makes you sick and is exhausting. Anger is to identify strongly with ideas that are not necessarily true. It takes a great amount of energy to sustain a state of anger. It is difficult to help someone when they are angry. It is as dangerous as helping a drowning person in the midst of panic. There is a very real risk that they will themselves cause you to drown in your effort to help them. So how do you help someone who is drowning? You swim to them, approaching them from behind. You take your arm and hold them across their chest from behind. In this position they can’t do anything to harm you, they’re looking up and away from the water and you can safely swim them to safety. In the same way, when dealing with an angry person, do not supplicate to their anger by being unconscious and taking everything they are dishing out but don’t speak out of anger yourself either. Let them vent and listen very consciously without taking offence. They will burn everything they come into contact with. Protect yourself with conscious effort. Use your “Attention Energy” as a fire fighter would spray his hose on an inferno. Fire eventually burns itself out. Once all of the energy has been burnt out, what remains is the same person you love in a more normal state. To fight fire with fire will not work and an angry person will not be receptive to anything you have to say most likely. Help dissipate the anger by simply listening without taking offence or taking position on any point. This is what an angry person needs. Anger is a one-way expression. It burns itself out, then comes the time to begin rebuilding and potentially reshaping the house of obsolete views, assuming that is the conversation that the truth demands. You mustn’t waste energy trying to communicate at a time when no one is willing to listen and understand. That time is definitely not when someone is angry. Let anger be the one-way expression and then bring on your love and more of your clarity.

Your Relationship is Your Ultimate Practice

Relationships can be a real pain in the….

! That’s true, but the pain is yours and it serves its purpose in deepening and strengthening your resolve. If you are able to serve your partner, you are diving deep beneath the stormy seas of life in your submarine. Remember you are in a submarine not just a little dinghy to be thrown around. Dive deeper and experience the calm. The more awkward and difficult a relationship is, the deeper you must dive into the ocean of consciousness. When you are able to dive deep enough and bring that level of presence into your relationship, you are transmuting your partner for the better. It may take some time and some patience but it will happen eventually. As a Muslim, we believe getting married is completing half of your religion. This is not just the act of getting married, but rather fulfilling the rights and integrities of your partner due to them. Loving them selflessly and putting yourself and your ego to one side. Diving deep into this ocean of consciousness every time the storm of an argument arises and bringing the calm below the surface tension out. This is done through your loving attention. It takes nothing more than even looking at your partner with love and compassion. The “Attention Energy” is highly effective from this place of love. This place of love runs deep below this stormy ocean. Arguing with your partner is a waste of energy. It will deplete you both until you gather enough energy to fight with one another again. Your partner is never the problem, it is your ability to dig deep enough. I will say here that there are the very rare exceptions, but these are really extreme cases in which separating is the best solution however there are an extraordinarily small portion of the population who would fall into this category. Your partner is your practice! Your partner is a manifestation of what it is you see in the world. If your partner is a problem, they are merely reflecting what it is that you believe about yourself and the world. This is why this practice of loving and compassionate “Attention Energy” is so important in healing not only your partner, but yourself. Psychologists have long been aware that what their clients see in the people in their lives is a reflection of their internal world. Why not start loving yourself by loving those around you?

What is an Emotional Credit?

HOW DO I GAIN RAPPORT?

Every salesperson wants to know how to do this but it is in fact a skill that everyone should learn. We are all in the business of influencing others to meet our needs. Although this isn’t always what we should be doing it is nevertheless an important skill and at its highest level, is actually impossible to abuse so I am happy to share it here. To influence and build rapport with people, you must make them feel good. This must be a genuine and sincere effort or else it will come across as repulsive and you will have created a distance. HELP people feel good about themselves and the decisions they make. This is not like a drug to the brain, it is a drug in the brain! Neuro chemicals are released when we are complimented. It helps us to feel good about ourselves. Nowadays many people have difficulty accepting praise which is a real shame, drawing attention to this when you see it is a great service to people. Do not criticise people however. If you do you deplete the emotional credit you hold with them. I cannot remember exactly where I came across this concept of emotional credit, but I have spent many years being grateful for it with each one of the relationships I have in my life. The people in your life hold an account for which the credit is based purely on feelings. If you help them feel good and are sincere about it, the account will build up. If you are critical and self-centred you will drive this account into overdraft. The more credit you have with an individual, the greater your influence will be. Acting with integrity will build credit with most people who are able to recognise this quality. This may not be the case with people who don’t recognise this quality but that is absolutely fine. You shouldn’t want to be in the company of people who don’t resonate with these qualities as they can, generally speaking, be very unconscious and can cause great conflict for you. Love your family unconditionally and serve everyone that comes into your life and you will gain great influence. The greatest and most influential leaders have been those that serve with the others best interest at heart. If you don’t believe in what you sell, then don’t sell it! You must believe in what it is that you sell in order to emote properly the benefits of your product or service. This cannot be abused when used correctly and is at its most powerful when supplemented with belief.

What is the Purpose of Worrying?

Worry….How do you overcome it? Worry is just another form of fear. Fear as we have discussed is a lack of understanding the consequences. We do not fear the inevitable. Fear disappears when we understand consequences. So it could be said that fear and worry are manifestations of ignorance. Ignorance is a lack of right knowledge. Learn to recognise that when you are worrying, there are some very simple steps that one can take to bring light to a situation. To give the correct type of “Attention Energy” through right knowledge. To draw on the analogy of the glass of muddy water. Given enough time and patience, the mud will settle unless we stir it up with our mind by insisting upon running thoughts through the mind. Thinking is only useful when it is given the form of problem solving questions. Once the question is formed, very little else needs to be done. The answer will come forth in your moments of quietude. Go for a walk after you have asked the question of yourself. The answer may come back as a lack of data, in which case go learn what you need to learn in order to formulate your solutions. Often we fall into a state of worry as comfortable response to a problem. When we worry, we are actually assuring our mind that we are keeping the brain busy to find a solution. This is not however sincerely seeking a solution. It is a selfish state that serves the ego to fool it into thinking that it is doing something. Doing the wrong thing will never work. The sincere seeker asks questions and listens sincerely to what is revealed to his mind and acts upon it with gratitude. This is an unfolding of consciousness. It is aligning oneself with the reality of a situation and the truth of a situation. Sincerity is the key to overcoming worry in the long run and is the most productive state one can assume when tackling problems, You are a marvellous creature, let your consciousness unfold and become bigger than your problems. You only worry because you seem small relative to your problems. Unfold and become bigger and there is no problem you can’t overcome. I have belief in you and I have belief in this process.